Has the internet broken humanity?

Has the internet broken humanityhumanity

hjʊˈmanɪti/
noun
1. human beings collectively.
“appalling crimes against humanity”
synonyms:    humankind, the human race, the human species, mankind, man, people, mortals; Homo sapiens
2. the quality of being humane; benevolence.
“he praised them for their standards of humanity and care”
synonyms:    compassion, brotherly love, fellow feeling, humaneness, kindness, kind-heartedness, consideration, understanding, sympathy, tolerance, goodness, good-heartedness, gentleness, leniency, mercy, mercifulness, pity, tenderness, benevolence, charity, generosity, magnanimity
“he praised them for their standards of humanity, care, and dignity”

When I pose the question as to whether the Internet has broken humanity, I am referring to both definitions. Has humanity, the human race, been so irreparably damaged by the anonymity of the Internet, that their humanity (compassion, kindness, consideration – pick your favourite) has been destroyed?

We’ve come to expect people to say despicable things online. We brand them “trolls” just out to get attention or ruin somebody else’s day. We are told to ignore people like this. Don’t engage them, leave them to be miserable in their own sad little worlds. Do you know what’s happening? It is leaking into the real world. Is it because behaving appallingly online is acceptable that people say whatever ugly thought is in their head in public now?

Yesterday morning I read a facebook status of a mom I know. She was upset because a cashier at a large local store told her (out loud in public in front of the 9 month old baby, her 4 year old brother and the rest of the queue) that her daughter is so ugly, she would have thought she was a boy if she wasn’t wearing pink. What the actual *$#! is wrong with humanity??

Firstly, this little girl is delicate and beautiful. Her only “sin” is that she has very fine hair that hasn’t grown in yet… like millions of other babies. Secondly, that is utterly irrelevant! What right has an absolute stranger – in a service industry position no less – to comment negatively on anybody anywhere? Let alone calling a baby ugly! And in front of an impressionable little boy. He was so upset that he needed to defend his baby sister by saying he thought she was beautiful. How DARE that woman?

In the endless mommy groups on Facebook, you see these excuses for humanity far too often… In the comments of some poor mom’s post looking for support or asking a question. They are eboldened by the fact that they are behind their screens, where they can’t see the disgust on other people’s faces. They judge everything from the colour of the woman’s hair in her profile picture to her language, clothing, character, family and always her ability as a mother. And we brush it off.

And that poor mother whose toddler got into the gorilla enclosure? Every person across the world felt it necessary to shred her personally. They questioned her ability as a mother and suggested they take away her children. Really?? Any mother that spewed that awful hatred for another person, another woman, another mom, implying it would never happen to them even if they had multiple children they were juggling… They are either unforgivably stupid or lying. And I wish with every cell in my body that people without children would STFU, because their opinion is baseless.

I hated with every iota of my being the vile stupidity that some “wealthy” woman shared about a fellow mommy blogger in another queue in another store. This “person”, who was with her own teenager and toddler, felt it appropriate to tell the blogger’s 3 year old son that she (the blogger) likes embarrassing him… Because his mommy should buy him clothes that fit him better and weren’t from a “shitty place” (indicating a Pep stores bag she was holding at the time). The teenager laughed. Where is his humanity? How is he meant to even know what that is with a mother like that? In an age where he can say whatever he likes online without fear of reprimand?

You know what I loved about the whole thing? The blog post this amazing mommy wrote that went viral and even had her talking on the radio. You know why I loved it? Because the uproar it caused hints that there may yet be some humanity out there. Maybe all is not lost. And I suppose that is thanks to the Internet giving this mommy a space to use her voice. But at what cost?

We used to be able to say that people type horrible things online that they would never say in real life. Maybe that was true once, but not anymore. Maybe these “people” don’t even realise that they are doing it out loud, maybe they are so used to airing their “thoughts” online, that it just spills out before they realise it.

I don’t know if there is an answer. I spend 95% of time on the Internet and I have never been overwhelmed by the need to vomit a passing thought onto a stranger. But there isn’t a bullying bone in my body and the world is full of frustrated bullies. I think I am just getting to the point where I might not watch quietly as another nasty piece of humanity leaves their opinion on something they know nothing about. I’m so tired of the bullies online and I feel like maybe, if more people speak up when the nasties throw their 2 cents into a conversation, they will be less likely to share their unwanted and unwelcome thoughts in the real world.

If the woman who felt the need to tell a mommy that her baby is ugly, or the woman who opened her condescending mouth to that poor 3 year old should happen across this blog… Please go away. I don’t want people like you anywhere near anything to do with me. The world would be a better place without “people” like you in it.

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